Many of you have been really supportive and encouraging while I've been dealing with the issue of my father's dementia. I am so grateful and thank you all so much for the comments, emails, and cards.
I have some good news to report, so I thought I'd share.
The Serenity Unit was able to place him in a nursing home with a "locked ward" which means he will not be able to go wandering off. They told him he was going to a different place for physical therapy, I guess, because he told me he had escaped the Serenity Unit by having perfect behavior and they had to let him go. (Before this he had insisted the hospital was really a prison and they weren't letting him out because they were afraid he would report them to the authorities - this would be part of his paranoid delusions.)
He also told me they had to send him to this "high end hotel" for physical therapy that is underwritten by Medicare and could I please pick up his car and keep it for him because he anticipated being there at least three months?
This, of course, reveals that he hasn't got a clue that he's in there for the rest of his life, and I'm really hoping that he'll continue to hold on to this particular delusion because I like that one a lot better than the ones that revolve around everybody at the hospital being white slavers and drug lords and thieves. More importantly, I like how he sounds now that he thinks he's staying in a hotel: much happier and far more relaxed.
Now that we have him placed, I have to file for guardianship and Medicaid and figure out what to do about his car lease, his apartment, and all of his credit cards, etc.
If anybody has any experience or advice she'd like to share, please don't be shy; DO leave a comment.
Thanks for stopping and have a blessed day!